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These Pages

All of these historical pages are available to all who wish to read them. 

Many of these pages refer to my own Quest.  It was this site, these pages and Efficient Love - The Good-Man Methodology that helped me find my own, perfect for me, Heroine.  My Quest has been totally, successfully accomplished - and Janet and I are sharing a glorious path of our own Happily Here & Now on our way to our shared version of Happily Ever After.

Although my Quest was wonderfully successful and is now over, I have left many of these pages that refer to my own search unchanged so that readers can better understand how I used The Method.  Hence, many pages purposely have not been updated to show my success!

My most sincere hope is that this old site will help give you insights on how best to EFFICIENTLY  find your own Hero or Heroine!

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Paths & Trails

Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships

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Soulmate Math
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Your Profane List
Your DIDO List
Five Years for You
The Process
Dragons
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Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships.

The Main Paths

Below are the three main paths through my Domain. 

You can always look here on all the pages to change to another main path at any time.

Your Quest

Click on the path below to find ways for you to better define the Hero or Heroine you seek.

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Writings

Click on the path below if you would like to read my fiction and non-fiction. 

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My Quest

Click on the path below if you want to learn all about me and see my own wish lists for the Heroine I seek for me.

Caution:  this is a long and hard trail intended only for those few brave souls who might, just maybe, be my Heroine.

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What's New

Very Major Update:

VERY HAPPILY MARRIED
Details by clicking Heroine Found.

New Page:  Dear Dashing are periodic answers to emails I receive about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues. 

New Page:  Relationship Foreplay which will give you 5 dates of info on a prospective lover in only 5 minutes!

New page just added to share some of the the spectacular, mesmerizing, kaleidoscopic sunsets that slowly parade out at sea each evening off my balcony.  Click the picture to see some of the whispering quiet reminders of the power of God.

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New pages just added for those who want Instant Chemistry first and for those who think I have too much Time on My Hands!

New page:  Strictly for friends and family on my recent relocation  to a new paradise.  Email me for the map to this hidden trail.

The view from my balcony that we might share on part of our first date...Click for BIG picture!  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships    

Also, a new page,  Soulmate Math on how each picky trait you want impacts your number of possible Heroes or Heroines.

Also, several new Dragon pages have just been added.  The first 8 of them have been so popular, I've added ten more Sneaky Relationship Dragons to the list.

General Updates Continue

This Domain is undergoing it first major renovation in four years.  Some main trails and side paths are undergoing brand new construction while others are simple cosmetic repairs.  Those paths undergoing major new construction may still be temporarily closed.

This Domain started, once upon a time, as a single page and a single picture with my own Quest as its sole goal.  The site has grown haphazardly to over 350 separate web pages and some readers are getting lost in the bushes. 

These new pages will have much better navigation with much better organization of thought and purpose - with it primary goal of helping others find their own Hero or Heroine.

Please stay tuned and. as always, comments and suggestion are welcome.  Also, please let me know of broken links, typos, inconsistent formatting or anything that seems confusing.


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The Path to Your Quest for Your Hero or Heroine

Welcome to the Dashing Good-Man Domain

My goal with these pages and this path in this huge Domain of mine is to help YOU efficiently define and find the perfect Hero or Heroine who will match ALL of your wants, wishes and needs.

You have probably already wasted too much time on this Quest.  Let's see if working together, we can accelerate your success.

The Hard Parts of Love and Relationships

My guess is that most of you have already had relationships galore.  Good ones.  Bad ones.  Regrettable relationships.  Forgettable relationships.  Relationships that were life-changing.  With all of them adding up to too many Cycles through too many of the Nine Stages.  All of that experience has gotten you where you are right now.  Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Do you want to keep using the same methods you have used so far, or would you rather try a new approach?  Maybe you’d like to try a new method that will let you benefit from all those dead-end trips down paths that led to neither Happily Here & Now nor Happily Ever After? 

But remember:  Ever After is the destination.  Here and Now is the path you travel each day ON THE WAY TO Ever After.

There really ARE so many possible Heroes (or Heroines) – and so little time.  The problem:  how to find the One – without taking all those side trips?

What Happily Ever After means to you is probably going to be significantly different from what it means to me and most everyone else.  What is important to each of us can be very different and is almost surely unique in many ways.

A warning though – if you really are serious about finding your own Happily Ever After, there ARE going to be three hard parts to that Quest: 

·        The Hard Part:  Seeking out Happily Here & Now with ONLY those who MIGHT be the companion to accompany you all the way to Happily Ever After, while you and they enjoy every morsel of Happily Here & Now you can – for as long as the ultimate destination of a shared Happily Ever After is still possible for you both. 

·        The Really Hard Part:  Ending Happily Here & Now when it becomes obvious to you both that Happily Ever After will not happen together. 

·        The Excruciatingly Hard Part:  Ending Happily Here & Now when just one of you believes Happily Ever After can still happen together. 

This first one is bad enough but the last two can be very tough – especially when the Happily Here & Now you share is fun or fulfilling or content in so many different facets of the relationship. 

If you find yourself at this point in a relationship, slow down long enough to see if you, or they, can fix what needs to be fixed to make it to Happily Ever After together. 

If so, continue the journey. 

If not, well, how much you believe in, or really want to reach Happily Ever After will dictate your own answer…<cue and play, Patty Smyth & Don Henley, “Sometimes Love Just Ain’t Enough”>… Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Warning

Warning:  Sometimes, the periods in between Happily Here & Now are so long that even when we taste a bit of it, when we sense even a little mutual chemistry, it is like a feast to a starving man.

Even when the Here & Now is not-so-great, these Three Hard Parts are often the reasons that many give up on ever finding Happily Ever After – with most settling for only a partial Happily Here & Now.  It is no wonder that so many have stopped believing that Happily Ever After exists. 

Most of us just aren’t willing to do all three of those hard parts, Cycle after Cycle through the Nine Stages, to get there – even though the consequence is that most of us still cycle – moving from one Happily Here & Now to the next – more often than not with someone who never, even from the beginning, shared our same vision of Ever After. 

Happily Here & Now 

Happily Here & Now, when it is mutually fulfilling and long lasting, doesn’t have to even be a bad compromise.  But about the only way to even enjoy this kind of compromise requires a very close match to one another’s wants, wishes and needs.  The closer those matches, the longer the relationship will probably be mutually satisfying – and the longer you both can delay another Cycle through the Nine Stages.

But either way, if your goal is Happily Ever After OR Happily Here & Now, you need to start by defining exactly what it is you want for YOU.  So, why not figure out a way to squeeze the ambiguity out of all your wants and wishes and needs – so you can make it clear to both yourself and to others what you, uniquely, want for YOU?

The Good-Man Methodology is intended to help you do that very thing.

Again, all of this is the reality of the steps necessary to reach Happily Ever After.  Those three hard parts are, again, just the dictates of reality and logic.

You Are Empowered to Choose

I have been amazed at how often so many folks have never considered the fact that they, themselves, have the right and ability to choose what THEY really want in defining their own Happily Here & Now and deciding where their own destination of Happily Ever After lies – often seeming as if they are waiting for someone else to give them permission to want what they want.

The Good-Man Methodology is intended to help you take charge of your own Quest, giving you power over your own Happily Here & Now and Happily Ever After in the ways that are most meaningful for you.

Your Three Lists

People’s lives are both complicated and complex – with almost uncountable issues and considerations that make up and add to their own daily biographies.  The Good-Man Methodology is designed to take two such people with two such lives and help them find each other when there is a close match between what they both want.

Imagine having written Lists defining exactly all that was important to you – and each of your prospects having written lists about what was important to them – so that, in a few minutes, you would know just how good a match there was between you – before the chemistry took over and rushed all the blood from your brains.  Before you forgot to discuss some important issue that you swore would not be overlooked again.  Before you do all the things you keep doing that keep getting you the same things you have been getting.

Imagine your Lists being so clearly defined in writing that you could hand it out or email it to each prospective Hero or Heroine without having to waste time constantly repeating yourself – so you could spend your time getting to know those who seemed like a very close match on ALL the Ten Filters between you.

The Method will show you how to use the fairly obvious Filters of Time & Timing and Mutual Chemistry to quickly sort through Hero or Heroine prospects.

The Method will also show you how to define, on three lists, the other things that are critically important to you: 

·        List 1 – The Profound List:  Includes all those qualities, traits and characteristics that you find important to YOU in your Hero or Heroine. 

·        List 2 – The Profane List:  Defines all those sexual needs, wants and wishes you require – and also maybe includes all the boundaries, or lack of them – that you have already learned are important to you in achieving your own sexual fulfillment. 

·        List 3 – The DIDO List:  Includes all the stuff that goes into day-in-day-out (DIDO) living and what you want in that DIDO, five years from today.  Hint:  This is probably where you will find the most dragons that will try to interfere with your Happily Here & Now and keep you and your Hero or Heroine from getting to Happily Ever After together.  

Guess what?  You ALREADY have these three Lists between your ears – and each prospective Hero or Heroine does too.  Whether you, or they, have taken the time to write them down or not, they already exist no matter how haphazardly they may currently be used. 

These Three Lists come from all that experience, from all those Cycles, we have each been through already and include all the things we have learned that are uniquely important to each of us.

Even if you just make the Lists, you’re going to be miles ahead on your trail to Happily Ever After.  If you go further into the entire Method, however, you will see how to most effectively utilize all that stuff you’ve already learned with your life experiences and how to most effectively define and refine your three Lists to better filter your Hero or Heroine applicants. 

Five Years from Today

All of those lists can match...your three lists and their three lists...but unless you both envision close to the same realities for a typical day in and day out lifestyle, other major dragons will raise their ugly heads. 

Take a look at the Five Years from Today path to make sure you both are heading to the same destination.

Dragon Attacks

This Path will guide you on your Quest, helping you to define who you are seeking, and show you how to proactively find that most perfect Hero or Heroine for your own Happily Here & Now.  The Method will also warn you about some of the more sneaky relationship dragons you should anticipate that might be waiting around the next turn.  Hopefully, your new knowledge will act as a sword to help you slay the ones that could keep you from reaching Happily Ever After with someone you find to share your Happily Here & Now.

I give you detailed descriptions of eighteen especially sneaky dragons that you might see up ahead on this path we are currently exploring.  Eight of these include:

The good news is that by using this Method, you can also keep a lot of the new relationship dragons from hatching.  Click on Dragons to check out these eighteen.

That's All There Is To It

That is all there is to it.  Just invest a couple of hours of your life to write up 3 quick lists and jot down some ideas of how your typical day in the future will be.  Simple.  But those simple steps and few hours of investment will probably save you months or years of wasted time on dead end paths.  Don't spend the rest of your life looking for the wrong Hero or Heroine.  Get started.  Now.

Best of luck on your own Quest for Happily Here & Now AND Happily Ever After!

PS: If you know others seeking their own Hero or Heroine, do them a favor and email them a link to The Good-Man Domain for Efficient Love!

 

Excerpt from "The Good-Man Methodology for Efficient Love." Copyright © 2003-2006 Robert Goodman..  
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The concept of Efficient Love is not the oxymora it first appears. 

Doesn't it  make incredible sense to invest a few hours to FULLY define ALL of your wants, wishes and needs that would describe your ideal lover?   

By efficiently identifying the general traits, characteristics, sexual issues and day-in day-out needs you find important, you can very quickly recognize if a prospective lover is a genuine long-term match BEFORE the chemistry takes over and leads you into yet another dead-end relationship and through another Cycle of the Nine Stages of Love.

Do you really want to watch the sun set on yet another day without sharing YOUR path of Happily Here & Now with someone who wants YOUR same Happily Ever After?

Doesn't it make more sense for you to find YOUR ideal Hero or Heroine as quickly and efficiently as possible? Wouldn't you rather share as many glorious days and nights of wonderful inefficiencies possible with your ideal lover, as quickly as possible?

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