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These Pages

All of these historical pages are available to all who wish to read them. 

Many of these pages refer to my own Quest.  It was this site, these pages and Efficient Love - The Good-Man Methodology that helped me find my own, perfect for me, Heroine.  My Quest has been totally, successfully accomplished - and Janet and I are sharing a glorious path of our own Happily Here & Now on our way to our shared version of Happily Ever After.

Although my Quest was wonderfully successful and is now over, I have left many of these pages that refer to my own search unchanged so that readers can better understand how I used The Method.  Hence, many pages purposely have not been updated to show my success!

My most sincere hope is that this old site will help give you insights on how best to EFFICIENTLY  find your own Hero or Heroine!

EfficientLove.com     

To find out more, also check out www.EfficientLove.com for updates.

Paths & Trails

Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships

Current Trailhead
My Profound List
My Profane List
My DIDO List
Our First Date
Infinite Me
Chemistry First???
Perfection???
Complaint Dept
Happily Ever After
Status Report
Why No Heroine Yet
Time on My Hands???
Intimidated?
Monogamy
Too Young?
Admission Price
The Dream
My Five Year Plan

Autumn leaves are absolutely best savored in the Great Smoky Mountains National Park -- especially when either climbing quiet, placid mountain trails beside gurgling streams to reach gushing waterfalls or majestic peaks -- or driving back park lanes at slow speeds with the top down on the convertible...but what would make both so absolutely perfect -- would be if you are fortunate enough to have THE most special, highly energetic, amazingly adventurous and totally adorable companion beside you the entire time! Click for more about these pictures.  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships.

The Main Paths

Below are the three main paths through my Domain. 

You can always look here on all the pages to change to another main path at any time.

Your Quest

Click on the path below to find ways for you to better define the Hero or Heroine you seek.

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Writings

Click on the path below if you would like to read my fiction and non-fiction. 

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My Quest

Click on the path below if you want to learn all about me and see my own wish lists for the Heroine I seek for me.

Caution:  this is a long and hard trail intended only for those few brave souls who might, just maybe, be my Heroine.

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What's New

Very Major Update:

VERY HAPPILY MARRIED
Details by clicking Heroine Found.

New Page:  Dear Dashing are periodic answers to emails I receive about how to better apply The Good-Man Methodology to the reader's own relationship issues. 

New Page:  Relationship Foreplay which will give you 5 dates of info on a prospective lover in only 5 minutes!

New page just added to share some of the the spectacular, mesmerizing, kaleidoscopic sunsets that slowly parade out at sea each evening off my balcony.  Click the picture to see some of the whispering quiet reminders of the power of God.

 Click for sunsets galore

New pages just added for those who want Instant Chemistry first and for those who think I have too much Time on My Hands!

New page:  Strictly for friends and family on my recent relocation  to a new paradise.  Email me for the map to this hidden trail.

The view from my balcony that we might share on part of our first date...Click for BIG picture!  Efficient Love and Relationships - For Better Dating, Online Dating and Relationships    

Also, a new page,  Soulmate Math on how each picky trait you want impacts your number of possible Heroes or Heroines.

Also, several new Dragon pages have just been added.  The first 8 of them have been so popular, I've added ten more Sneaky Relationship Dragons to the list.

General Updates Continue

This Domain is undergoing it first major renovation in four years.  Some main trails and side paths are undergoing brand new construction while others are simple cosmetic repairs.  Those paths undergoing major new construction may still be temporarily closed.

This Domain started, once upon a time, as a single page and a single picture with my own Quest as its sole goal.  The site has grown haphazardly to over 350 separate web pages and some readers are getting lost in the bushes. 

These new pages will have much better navigation with much better organization of thought and purpose - with it primary goal of helping others find their own Hero or Heroine.

Please stay tuned and. as always, comments and suggestion are welcome.  Also, please let me know of broken links, typos, inconsistent formatting or anything that seems confusing.


Click to email me

One note about emailing me:  Please click on the eyes and don't change the automated subject line.  If you do, my spam filter will probably delete your mail without me seeing it until I add you as a "Friend."

Sorry for the constraint, but I get almost 2,000 spams every day - and this is the only way to easily solve the problem!


 

My Quest for MY Heroine

If you are here on this particular main path, you must be a very brave soul.  This path is just about me and my own Quest for my own Heroine. 

If that is not where your interests lay, then the other two main paths here in this Domain will be much more interesting to you.  Just click on either My Writings or Your Quest to explore either of those.

Update:  Please click on Status of the Search to find out my current temperature!
Hint:  I am in an incredible, wonderful, monogamous VERY long term relationship directly as a result of these very pages and this Methodology and NOW VERY HAPPILY MARRIED!

Efficient Love

Still here?

OK.  Just don't confuse self-actualization with arrogance!   By definition, this whole main path is all about me and what I want!  My goal is to let us both discover as quickly as possible if there is a match between us.  That is what efficient love is all about - so we can enjoy as much glorious inefficiencies as possible when we each find our own Hero or Heroine.Hello darling, my name's Robert...thanks for coming by...

If you are here just out of curiosity, you are welcome to meander around my main path and most of my side trails for as long as you want and/or until you get bored to tears. 

If you are here to see if you might, just maybe, be my Heroine, I hope you have already explored the path to Your Quest first and fully developed your own Profound, Profane and DIDO Wish Lists.  If you haven't defined who YOUR Hero is yet, you won't know whether I am he.  And that's a risky proposition for us both.

My own, very personal Quest is to find that one, most special, woman -- one out of the 50 million women now on the Internet -- who both matches my outrageously particular needs, wants and wishes -- AND I match all of hers. That one, most special, woman, who will share with me, fantastically incredible, knock-your-socks and thigh-highs-off, mutual chemistry.

That one, most special, woman who will probably be as far from perfect as I am. But that part won't matter -- she and I will be perfect for each other.

The Status Report will tell you if you found me in time.

Hopefully, if you are peeking into this Domain to see if you might, just maybe, be my Heroine, you won't be intimidated by these pages as some, sometimes, are. I know this Domain is massive and can even seem overwhelming -- but my Quest is genuine and I hope, in this one case, you won't let size matter.

Even if you think you aren't the One, or aren't interested in applying for my err position, I still hope you find the Methods, parables, chapters and lists here thought-provoking... and that some of these pages will help you, like they have helped thousands of others, to rethink and more finely define and refine YOUR own personal ideas and needs for your own Happily Ever After.....

Who knows?... maybe... just maybe.... after looking very closely, you might find that I really may be the One for YOU -- assuming that I'm not already taken. 

Are You and I Well Matched?

The quick and efficient way for to find out if we might, just maybe, be a very close match is to quickly look at my three wish lists. 

A few minutes of quickly reviewing my Profound, Profane and DIDO Lists will show you the traits, wants, wishes and needs that I seek in my Heroine.  By quickly scanning those three lists, This picture was taken on that balcony of mine described in the story you can read by clicking the picture.....Picture taken by my visiting 16 yr old son on July 28, 2003....and you thought that story about our first date on that balcony with THAT sunset was all fiction.....you can judge for yourself if we might be a match.

If your attention span is too short for even peeking at those, you can see a two-minute overview with lots of pretty charts about our match by clicking My Match.  You can take your own version of this test in under 5 minutes. 

If you have another five minutes, you could read over the 5 Minute Me, a private page that will tell you the top two dozen most important facets about me...Facet Foreplay that will give you five dates of information in five minutes (since this is a private page, you have to email me, asking for the location of this secret, more confidential, path).

If there isn't a match between us, thanks for looking anyway.  If you don't like my ideas of my ideal Heroine, please see Igor in my Complaint Department

However, if you think there is a VERY close match, then I would like to hear from you on what matched and what didn't.  Then, I would want to see YOUR same three lists, telling and showing me what is important to YOU.  Also, you might want to click the picture of me on my balcony to find out what we might, just maybe, do on our first date.

Near-Infinite Layered Depth

These pages are designed under the concept of "near-infinite layered depth" which means this Domain is designed so you can quickly find out as much or as little as you want about me....so you can read as little or as much as you want, delving as deep as you wish -- until you find out if we are a match or not.

If we are NOT a mutual match, then you can stop -- having gained the knowledge of our incompatibility -- or read on for your own self-discovery or other thought-provoking reasons. If there IS a match between us, then my guess is you will want to read all you can to find out if I, of all people, might be the Hero you seek -- AND -- you are the Heroine I seek!

The information here is designed to expedite your own personal conclusion about us -- so you will know the probable answer in less than a couple of minutes. And, if the match is there, and you delve deeply enough, these pages probably will tell you EVERYTHING you would want to know about me -- telling you more than you probably ever knew about your last three lovers, combined.

Pretty efficient, huh? (Hint: Start with the Profound List One).

Three Traits

Just so you know -- none of this is a game -- but it IS intended to be fun and thought-provoking for the very bright and the truly literate who also posses a genuine sense of humor. If you're gifted with all three traits, enjoy your explorations of both my vast Domain and your own thought processes and reflections about you -- and what you want for YOU.

(If you possess NONE of the three, you will probably better enjoy spending your time elsewhere -- like watching Jerry Springer reruns -- or going to HIS web page -- a link is included here to make it easy for those who are incapable of finding it without help). ;>

If you just don't like what you see here, please visit Igor in my Complaint Department. If even he can't help, it would probably be best for us both if you just let your fingers do the walking -- on your mouse button, with my best wishes that you find the most special Hero or Heroine you seek.

Happily Ever After

What, exactly, does it take for YOU to find Happily Ever After? This little parable about Mae Betheone might help you decide (Chapter One of the new, upcoming novel, "Mae Betheone").

And, if you're interested, read what comes after the story -- it will tell you exactly what I am looking for in the Heroine I seek. Or, at least one of the three lists of necessary traits. And the 478 possible points you can score on List One.

If you can find the secret door, see the special page that's reserved for my Heroine when I find her. Is it for you?

Come with Me, Now, to ParisThe Dream -- Click for the BIG Picture

No, not hype, but a parable, that might come true -- if I ever find you.

Maybe, if you're the one that matches everything closely enough, on all of each others' lists, we might share a promise I made to myself twenty five years ago when I lived in Paris.... to return to a certain gazebo, hidden off a small path, in the woods of Versailles.

Can you visualize YOU in every aspect of this story? What changes would you make to the story to make it ideal for YOU? If you can totally relate, I REALLY want to hear from you.

("Pour Elle Qui Peut-Etre L'une," Chapter Four, from the novel, "Mae Betheone." OK, for those who need a translation, "For She Who May Be the One"-- don't worry, the story is in English!)

Infinite Me

The real me. Complete with pictures, suitable for framing. Along with more information and background than you could possibly really want to know. Probably even more than you know about the last three guys you dated for more than six months.  Trust me when I tell you that you will only find this interesting if you are ready to pick out the china pattern with me.

Status of the Search

This is the current status of this Novelist's search for his Heroine.  As I see it, there are twelve possible degrees of romantic nirvana separating me from Happily Ever After. Click on Status of the Search to find out my current temperature.

Have we found each other in time?

 

 

The Book

If you're enjoying your visit here to my Domain, you can help support, sponsor and maintain all of these many paths and trails with your purchase of the JUST released THIRD edition of Efficient Love.

The just-released 184 page paperback edition is now available at Amazon, Barnes and Noble and most bookstores for only $19.97! 

Get your own Efficient Love today!

 

If it's not in stock at your local bookstore,  just have them special order it for you. Tell them it's ISBN # 978-0-9792952-0-1

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The concept of Efficient Love is not the oxymora it first appears. 

Doesn't it  make incredible sense to invest a few hours to FULLY define ALL of your wants, wishes and needs that would describe your ideal lover?   

By efficiently identifying the general traits, characteristics, sexual issues and day-in day-out needs you find important, you can very quickly recognize if a prospective lover is a genuine long-term match BEFORE the chemistry takes over and leads you into yet another dead-end relationship and through another Cycle of the Nine Stages of Love.

Do you really want to watch the sun set on yet another day without sharing YOUR path of Happily Here & Now with someone who wants YOUR same Happily Ever After?

Doesn't it make more sense for you to find YOUR ideal Hero or Heroine as quickly and efficiently as possible? Wouldn't you rather share as many glorious days and nights of wonderful inefficiencies possible with your ideal lover, as quickly as possible?

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Main Map My Profound List My Profane List My DIDO List Our First Date Infinite Me Chemistry First??? Perfection??? Complaint Dept Happily Ever After Status Report Why No Heroine Yet Time on My Hands??? Intimidated? Monogamy Too Young? Admission Price The Dream My Five Year Plan

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Main Map ] My Profound List ] My Profane List ] My DIDO List ] Our First Date ] Infinite Me ] Chemistry First??? ] Perfection??? ] Complaint Dept ] Happily Ever After ] Status Report ] Why No Heroine Yet ] Time on My Hands??? ] Intimidated? ] Monogamy ] Too Young? ] Admission Price ] The Dream ] My Five Year Plan ]

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Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness,being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?

 

Improve Your Dating, Love, Relationships for Happily Ever After Love

Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance are all important concepts to avoid loneliness, being lonely and divorce.
Dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance 

What method do you use in your life for dating, love, relationships, marriage, romance? 

Do you seek Happily Ever After in a relationship?